Recently, I moved across town to be closer to work. With that, I moved an extra half-hour from my church. After having to make a few trips to my church, and catching myself complaining how far away it is, I had to stop and remind myself why I am going to church. Do you ever struggle with why you go to church or what you do when you’re there? Not sure if you are going for the right reasons? Here are 4 signs you’re “doing church” wrong.
4 Signs You’re “Doing Church” Wrong
1. You’re Not Going/You are Not Consistent
Church is one of the most important things to a Christian’s walk. Lately, I have been seeing an “anti-church” crowd rising up. Although, yes Christians are the church and it is not a building, it is important to be with a group of fellow, like-minded believers in order to grow in your Christian walk.
Here’s what Hebrews 10:25 has to say about going to church:
“. . . not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as is the manner of some, but exhorting one another, and so much the more as you see the Day approaching. . .” (NKJV)
The Bible says we shouldn’t forsake getting together with our fellow Christians and worshiping God together.
I understand that sometimes churches cause more damage than they do good.
(HERE’S an awesome post from Crosswalk that gives you signs that you’re in an unhealthy church!)
But here’s the good news:
Not all churches are like that.
I have been in churches that made me want to skip church all-together (real-talk).
But that is not the solution. The solution is to pray about the church you are in and the situation, and if there is nothing that can be fixed, leave.
Honesty Time: It is not your job to stay at a church to “fix it” if you are spiritually starving.
Unless you feel impressed by Jesus to stay at this location, then go find a new church where you will be taught biblical truth, challenged in your walk, and where you can worship freely. It is not okay when you constantly feel drained or bogged down or “dead” after going to church.
No, going to church does not make you a Christian, but it sure helps in the walk when you need encouragement and fellowship.
Soooooo. . . go to church 🙂
2. You are Going For the Wrong Reasons
You go to church? Awesome! Why are you going to church?
Are you going for “obligations” or the way it looks to other people? Because you feel like it’s the right thing to do as a Christian? The cute guy you want to notice you?
Honestly, until I started going to church for the right reasons (to worship my Lord, Jesus Christ, to grow in my walk with Him, and to fellowship with my sisters-in-Christ) church STUNK. I didn’t want to be there because it was out of obligation. My family was in a position of leadership and it didn’t look right for me to go.
When I started to go to church to worship Jesus and honor His name, church became a lot more enjoyable. I stopped caring how I looked to other people. I felt free to worship and grow through my pastor’s sermons. I wanted to be challenged and please Jesus.
The Bible doesn’t call the church a “House of gossip” or a “House of mingling with the super goodlooking guy that sits on pew three”. The word of God calls the church a “House of Prayer” and a “House of Worship”.
3. You Aren’t Fellowshipping With Your Fellow Christians
Now this is what I struggle with.
I absolutely LOVE my church family! They are sincere people who truly want me to succeed in not only life but my relationship with Jesus Christ! They love to check on me and root for me and have been awesome supporters of me!
But I am a TOTAL introvert. I forget to text back. I forget about your cousin’s sister’s son’s goldfish’s birthday. (Sorry, Bubbles). I am an “out-of-sight, out-of-mind” type of person. Don’t get me wrong, I truly care about you; it just is hard for me to realize that others see my friendship as relevant and significant in their lives. I forget that I mean something to people.
Are you the same way? Is it hard for you to connect with your church family or stay in touch with them throughout the week? A goal for me has definitely to be more “present” in my Christian family’s lives. I notice that when I do this, my friendships with these people grow deeper and stronger and their love for me grows stronger as well! It always helps to have a trusted group of believers to go to when you need encouragement, advice, or guidance!
4. You Go with a “You-Priority”
Going to church usually leaves me feeling refreshed, rejuvenated, and happy to be a Christian! Jesus wants church to be this kind of blessing!
Unfortunately, sometimes I go to church for what I can get from it rather than what I can give.
What do I mean? I mean sometimes I would rather go to feel good about my Christianity rather than to worship the Savior. Sometimes I go to church for the social side, rather than to experience Intimacy with Jesus.
You should want to go to church for you. For your growth, a retreat from life, and for the fellowship; but going to church for yourself should not be your main priority. You should have Christ at the central focus of your intentions.
I want to go to church to wave my hands in praise and tell the Lord how much I love him! Jesus deserves my prayers and the first-fruits of not only my week but my intentions!
Going to church with the mindset of “I’m going to give Jesus my all” has truly added on to my love for church! Because once I have determined that my attendance is for Jesus, I feel He truly sees that and blesses me. (Yay!!)
What do YOU think? What are some reasons you think you could be going to church for the wrong reasons? Let me know in the comment below!!!
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